What is Power of Two?
Watch a brief video of how the program works.
It's a unique online program that:
- Teaches you how to stop fighting.
- Improves communication, builds trust and enhances intimacy.
- Includes videos, podcasts, worksheets, and interactive exercises.
- Works on your own schedule, alone or with your partner.
- Is for couples at all stages — dating, engaged or married for years.
The program has been scientifically proven to enrich intimate relationships. It's an excellent substitute or supplement to marriage counseling-online.
The Power of Two curriculum is based on the fundamental belief that with the right skills almost every conflict in a relationship can have a win-win solution.
People often say that fighting and compromise are inevitable in intimate relationships. At Power of Two we set the bar higher. We teach the skills to help you avoid fights and eliminate compromise with effective communication skills and win-win solutions for your disagreements.
In Power of Two you will learn how to...
- Maintain an emotionally calm, supportive relationship.
- Communicate without arguing or compromising.
- Interact without being controlling or feeling controlled.
- Listen so your partner feels heard.
- Speak so that your partner will listen.
- Make satisfying win-win decisions together.
- Incubate positivity, intimacy and trust.
Many couples who have been active members for even a few months find themselves actually enjoying talking through their old difficult issues. The key is that they have learned to transform conflict into an opportunity to express their love, intimacy and respect for each other.
How much does it cost?
100% of your last month's membership back if you are not fully satisfied.
It's just $18 per month! That's way less per month than live couple's therapy costs per week.
There's no contract. You can cancel at anytime with on simple click in your account settings page.
And, you won't be charged a penny for the first 3 days while you trial the program for free.
Is it effective?
In a rigorous randomized study, participants using the online program for just a few minutes each week saw significantly more improvement (15% in just two months!) in how satisfied they were with their marriages than people who did not use the program.
No other online program has demonstrated such efficacy.
In addition, marriage satisfaction improves even if you participate on your own, and your spouse chooses not to.
How does it work?
When you become a member, your coach will prepare a personalized list of short activities that will help you to learn, practice and implement new skills.
Yes, your coach is a real live person who is here to help guide you on the path to a world-class marriage.
Your coach is always only an e-mail away if you are having marriage problems, need some emergency help in how to communicate, or just want a sympathetic ear. Over time, as you complete activities, your coach will suggest more ways to strengthen your marriage.
At any time you can also always browse our extensive library of interactive multi-media activities, podcasts, worksheets, videos, email series and more.
Does my spouse need to join?
No, your spouse does not need to join. The program is designed so you can do it alone or as a couple.
There are three main ways people use the program:
- Alone — Almost all the activities can be done alone. A few need another person. These are easy to print and show to your spouse or do with a friend for that matter!
- As a couple with independent accounts — Part of the joy (and challenge) of being married is that you two are still two individuals. That means you are likely to have very different ideas about what you want to work on, different questions for your coach, and on a practical note, different e-mail addresses. Couples who both want to work on improving their marriage, in their own customized way, are encourage to create two independent accounts.
- As a couple with one joint account — Does doing it all together sound more appealing to you to? Great! Share one account. You can return to every activity as many times as you want. Your coach will get all your responses.
How much time does it take?
You can spend as little or as much time on the site as you want. Many people have found that setting a weekly appointment to login and dedicate five to fifteen minutes to marriage improvement works well, but it is entirely up to you.
And since everything, including your coach, is online you don't need to make an appointment. You can spend some time improving your marriage on your lunch break, just before you go to bed or whenever and wherever suits you.
Who wrote the curriculum?
In 1993, Susan Heitler Ph.D. wrote her first book for clinical psychologists, From Conflict to Resolution. In 1997, realizing that lay-people needed their own book, she wrote the world-renowned marriage help book (published in 6 languages), The Power of Two: Secrets to a Strong & Loving Marriage, on which this site is based.
Dr. Susan Heitler has been saving marriages in danger of divorce as a clinical psychologist for over 30 years. She’s a graduate of Harvard University, holds a master's degree in education from Boston University and a doctorate in clinical psychology from New York University.
Dr. Heitler is quoted frequently in national media as an expert on relationship skills. She appears regularly in magazines like Ladies Home Journal and Men's Health Magazine and was featured on the CBS Early Show where anchor Harry Smith described her as "the most influential person in my life — my therapist."
Her books, videos, journal articles and lectures for professional counsellors, have influenced how therapists around the world treat troubled couples.
She and her husband have been happily married for nearly 40 years and have enjoyed raising four children, now with children of their own.
Dr. Heitler has lectured on her therapy methods both nationally and internationally, including speaking engagements in Spain, Austria, Lebanon, United Arab Emirates, Israel and Australia.
For more information, see Dr. Heitler's website.
Who is the head coach?
Dr. Abigail Hirsch is the co-author of the original Power of Two Workbook and leads the online coaching team.
She holds a B.A. in Quantitative Studies of Social Policy from Harvard University, an M.A. in Educational Psychology from the University of Colorado, Denver and a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the University of Massachusetts, Boston.
Abigail has been happily married for over a decade and is the proud mother of 3 young boys who keep life interesting with their bikes, tennis, drums, and fencing.
While Dr. Hirsch is able to reply to many, many members' questions, some members will also receive help from other marriage specialists on our coaching team. Dr. Hirsch trains and supervises all of the PO2 coaches to make sure you're always getting first rate help!
Meet our team
Our mission is to help as many couples as possible live happier, healthier and more loving lives together by delivering the most engaging, effective, and convenient marriage education in the world.
Jacob Heitler, VP Business Development
Jacob works out of an office he shares in Berkeley, CA with friends from business school who are starting a socially responsible underwear company (check them out at www.wearpact.com). He spends his time riding his bike through the hills of Berkeley, watching esoteric movies, and playing with his rambunctious nephews and niece. He holds a bachelor’s degree in Applied Mathematics from Yale University and an MBA from the Haas School of Business at UC Berkeley.
Daniel Berson, VP Creative Production
Daniel works from his home in the Silverlake neighborhood of Los Angeles. An actor and director, his comedy videos have been featured on Funny or Die, The Huffington Post, and Gawker. In 2010, one of his shorts became a viral hit in South Korea, appearing on the front page of Yahoo, the radio and network television. He enjoys eating super-spicy meals and exploring Los Angeles with his beautiful food writer wife, Katie. He holds a bachelor's degree in English and Theater Studies from Yale University.
Jesse Heitler, VP Technology
Jesse spends his days in The Shed, which is really just the garden shed of his house in London decked out with some really cool wall paper. He telecommutes to join the Torque Interactive Media team and helps to make us a 24 hour operation. Jesse holds a bachelor's degree in Computer Science from Yale University, and Torque is the 3rd business he's helped found.
Clayton Meador, Creative Engineer
Clayton works out of the Denver, CO office with Abigail, Katie, and CJ. Clayton has been married for 2 years and spends his free time producing dance music, animation, and various digital media. He has a Bachelor of Fine Arts degree in Sculpture from the University of Kansas.
Power of Two began in the head of Dr. Susan Heitler, PhD and developed out of 20+ years of helping hundreds of couples in her private practice remember why they chose to marry their spouse in the first place. She believes deeply that great therapy isn’t a permanent crutch… it should teach people the skills to walk on their own feet, lovingly, together.
In 2006, Dr. Heitler’s son, Jesse Heitler accompanied her to a Smart Marriages conference to help her sell her books on marriage. He realized then that as the marriage experts were getting older, the people getting married were staying the same age. Having recently sold another business that provided online English language teachers from South Africa, Jesse was looking for a new entrepreneurial opportunity. He decided to start a business teaching marriage communication skills targeted for the digital era.
Pretty quickly, Jesse recruited Daniel Berson who was acting and working in museum education in NYC. Daniel’s comic timing and creativity were a perfect compliment to Jesse’s technical expertise.
In 2007, Dr. Heitler’s daughter, Dr. Abigail Hirsch, PhD joined the team by initially helping to secure a 5 year grant to create online marriage education products from the Federal Department of Health and Human Services under their Healthy Marriages Initiative.
Having secured the company’s first large source of revenue, and having the most appropriate skill set for leadership, everyone agreed to make Abigail the company’s CEO. Although the company believes in using our PO2 communication skills to build consensus, Abigail keeps all the troops marching in the same direction.
Having developed a reputation for online educational materials, in 2008, Power of Two secured a pilot with The Gap Inc (The Gap, Banana Repulic, & Old Navy) to develop digital internal sales associate training. Realizing that the business had the potential to create effective corporate education materials, Power of Two changed its name to Torque Interactive Media Inc, and made Power of Two a product line of the larger innovative digital training company.
In an attempt to expand the scope of the business, in 2008 the team approached the 3rd of Dr. Heitler’s four children, Jacob Heitler. Jacob was completing his MBA at the Haas School of Business at UC Berkeley at the time, and began consulting originally on a part time basis. Upon graduating, Jacob joined the company as the final founding partner.
Torque Interactive Media Inc and the Power of Two continue to expand in new and fruitful directions. The company continues to innovate as it develops engaging interpersonal and corporate educational materials.
Here's our mailing address and phone number:
Power of Two
c/o Torque Interactive Media
1410 Grant Street
Denver, CO 80203