Communication in marriage is a skill you can learn.
Nobody's born a natural communicator. Like riding a bike or hitting a baseball, communication in marriage is a skill you can learn. And good communication is the key to improving your relationship.
Karl’s parents fought every night until they got divorced when he was in 6th grade. Jen’s parents seemed like they hardly talked at all. When she was in high school, they eventually had a few blow out fights and separated. It seems like none of their friends have particularly great marriages either.
Now, Karl and Jen wonder if it’s even possible to have a healthy stable marriage. Is being a good communicator something you just have to be born with? Where does one look when your parents weren’t good models of communication in marriage?
Psychologists have been studying communication in marriage for years, and there's a lot of consensus amongst experts about how happy couples communicate differently than unhappy ones.
Power of Two Online is designed to help couples understand what psychologist have learned about how to communicate with your spouse, at a fraction of the cost of couples counseling. As a member, you’ll learn the nitty-gritty details that make loving marriages work. And, our personalized coaching staff can help answer your questions as you apply the skills you learn in your own relationship.
Communication in relationships is like a river. When thoughts and feelings flow smoothly between marriage partners it's fun, feels good, and helps support everyone around. However, when communication flow is turbulent, it's potentially dangerous and destructive. And when communication gets blocked, pressure builds up. Then when the words start flowing again, they tend to come out suddenly in a damaging raging flood.
Because many couples struggle with healthy communication in marriage, especially about important issues, it’s common for couples to avoid their big, difficult topics. They share trickles of information back and forth about who’s going where when and who’s going to pick up the kids, without ever diving into the conversations that are actually most important to them. Overtime, the lack of a full communication flow dries up the passion and love between them.
What does great communication in marriage look like? In a great relationship couples talk freely, openly, and feel safe sharing their most private thoughts. They comfortably and considerately verbalize their concerns and feelings when difficulties arise and voice their positive thoughts when things are good. Both partners talk tactfully, staying far from attacking, hurtful or controlling comments. They listen attentively, trying to understand what their partner says with sympathy rather than looking for what’s wrong in what their partner has to say or dismissing what they hear, even if they have a different perspective. And after talking, both people in the marriage feel good about the conversation, and feel like their concerns have been considered and addressed.
Great communication in marriage is a skill that you can learn. It takes practice. And it takes a teacher that can show you how. The Power of Two Online is designed to teach you the skills to master the art of communication in marriage.