Divorce and Children
One of the most difficult questions for a struggling couple is of divorce and children: how could this change impact my child? Just as every family is different, divorce will impact children differently in each case. Your children’s age and personality will determine how well they adjust. Most important is how much conflict is present between the mother and father. Children of high-conflict divorces are more likely to experience depression, anxiety, emotional outbursts, and behavior problems than their counterparts.
The Longevity Project, a study of over 5,000 individuals from birth to death, has uncovered startling facts about divorce and children. Sadly, these statistics hold true no matter how friendly or positive the divorce is.
- Children with divorced parents have lower overall life expectancy
- Male children are more likely to engage in risky behavior and have higher chances of injury and death
- Children’s standard of living decreases after parent's separation
- Both girls and boys tend to end education earlier
Perhaps most tragically, since our expectation of what marriage should be is framed by our parents’ relationship, children of divorce have a higher chance of divorcing later in life. It is no wonder that one in two marriages end in separation today, when today’s adult generation (GenX) is the offspring of an era of when divorce rates doubled. Each instance divorce and children perpetuates the cycle of broken families.
Divorce is hard on everyone, and divorce and children is the most damaging combination. Sadly, many divorces occur because of marriage problems that could be repaired. Before asking yourself, “Should I get a divorce?” try seeking support from a marriage counselor. Power of Two offers flexible, discreet online relationship counseling that can be done on your own or with your partner. You can sign up for a free 3-day trial and start messaging your coach today.